Post by Yetti on Dec 17, 2014 12:48:51 GMT -5
Situation.
a Stand-up Comic called out another stand up comment for being Distasteful
here is her FB post
Kristal Jones
I Am Not Your Punchline
It started with me writing the words "Not Funny." On a rape joke posted to his Facebook Page. It has now become a lot bigger than me and my opinion of what is funny. Yes, I was raped. No, I do not enjoy rape jokes. Yes, I find them offensive. No, I do not wish to cencor anyone. Yes, I agree comedy is safe space for taboo and often inappropriate humour. No, I do not find anything humourus about rape. Yes, this started with a rape joke. No, that is not why i am so angry.
I started performing stand up this summer. I opened for Kirk Scott twice. We also hung out as friends on several social occasions. When he posted the initial rape joke I felt the need, as a survivor and as a human to express my distaste for it. Afterall, he was promoting me as a comedien and i wanted it to be clear that I didnt support that particular brand of shock humour. The words "Not Funny" quickly spiraled into what I thought was playful banter untill I was told to "eat a dick". As this banter was on a public feed I decided to message Kirk privately. I explained what I just did now, that I am a survivor of rape and I dont appreciate that type of humour but i wasnt trying to be rude. This was met with zero empathy and comments like " so what you were raped, I got bad head once but I still had hope for you. Dont take it out on me. Grow up." I was called weak. I was told that I wasnt going to be anymore of his shows and that I should go rot.
Not long after I recieved messages from Kirk accusing me of reporting his photo of the rape joke. I didnt, but that shouldnt matter. Immediately after he accused me of that he made a public post to his Fb page stating that he had a dream about "raping the shit out of the peson who reported his picture." Shortly after that he dressed as a rapist character Captin Spaulding and took selfies at a local radio station with the host in the booth infront of the mic and poseted them. He also began to message me things like; " you are my new project. This is my favorite thing to do. Buckle up."
For days he posted to Facebook Publicly videos of dogs being raped, pictures of food with the word rape in the spelling, photos of tools used for rape , music videos mocking me for being a survivor and many other disturbing things where either tagged me in the post itself or referred to me in the comments. He also continued to write me strange an disturbing messages.
When that radio host he posted pictures with ( and also lived with and performed with) said that he was mannings Kirk account for the day made a post via Kirks fb that he would be manning Kirks fb for the day I encouraged him to remove the posts, read the messages and reconsider who he is publicalt, personaly and professionaly envolved with. This was met with private messages calling me sad pathetic and stupid for sharing screen grabs of what Kirk was doing to me. This host repeatedly asked not to be envolved and said he didnt agree with Kirk but then berated me with a series of rape jokes he did find funny. I explained this wasnt about rape jokes. It was about a personal attack on me.
That is what people seem to be confusing here. This began with a rape joke and turned into a mallicious attack on me for being a rape survivor who spoke out. I wont let the story end that way. You see, after feeling upset and frightened I contacted the police. It took 48 hours ( that is an entirely too long time and a matter that I hope is addressed down the road) for an officer to be available to take my report. No charges were laid at that time but a warning was given. I thought that would be the end of it.
Fastforward to a month later. Kirk is seen in a segment on Chex promoting his comedy show for a childrens toy drive on CHEX daily. He mentions that radio host and The Wolf. He escorted on stage by an actual uniformed officer. I feel the wind knocked out of me as he looks and the camera and says he sometimes jokes about bad things so he needs to do something good for kids. I go to the venue the event will be held at in person to warn them who they booked and I emplor them to cancel. I see in local papers the event is listed as a Wolf event.
The day of the show rolls around and Kirk uses a Rape joke in conjunction with the name of venue hosting the event in order to encourage people to come out. I am nausious. I begin to message Chex, the Wolf and the establishment holding the event. I send screen caps of the harassment. I explain that this person should not be allowed to headline a childrens fundraising event. I explain that it is socially irresponsible to give this person a platform publicly after what had done. I explained that this perpetuates rape culture.No one cares or responds for hours. The show goes on and Kirk goes on stage and tells a hanious joke comparing a womans vagina to an 8 year olds mouth. At an event to raise toys for disadvantaged kids.
The night of the event I recieve an apology from a person at Chex who asks to remain unnamed. In th days following public posts are made by the establishment and The Wolf claiming they had no prior knowledge of Kirks recent history. A simple google search likely would have revealed this. The Wolf and the establishment hosting the event taking turns blaming eachother for why the Wolfs name is envolved. No one explains why this was allowed to happen or what will be done to prevent it or even why it was so awful. Just basically a "Sorry some people were offended. Its not our fault."
Chex releases a vauge apology and my name is dragged though the mudd in the comments. I am accused of seaking attention, cying victim, being jealous of someone funnier than myself,stalking and harassing Kirk. That is the only Joke in any of this really- that I somehow wanted or exploited this situation for some sort of gain. I do not want to be poster child for rape. I do not enjoy that my deepest shame and fear is now public knowledge. I do not like that I have typed the word 100s of times in the last week. Infact I hate it all. I hate that I have to. I know that if Kirks comments and attacks toward me happened 10 years ago, closer to my rape I would have harmed myself. I know that there a survivors still realing who, had they been Kirks target would have hurt themselves. That is why I have been so public. That is why this is important. I hate that I live in a world where I have to explain this.
I have had a tremendous amount of support since this started. My friends. Family, fellow comediens and strangers have rallied around me and I couldnt be more grateful. I am excited to move forward from this situation in a way that spins all this ugliness into some good, shiny, happy positive stuff. I am working with other comediens to organize a night of stand up in support of The White Ribbon and Draw the Line Campaigns. It is my hope that in bringing light to this situation and to these important campaigns that my community becomes a safer, kinder, more socially responsible one that takes steps away from the common embrace of rape culture and steps toward the alignment of survivors and everyone else.
Thanks for reading. Excuse the spelling. This is a lot to type with thumbs on a tiny screen and I cant bear to edit.
a Stand-up Comic called out another stand up comment for being Distasteful
here is her FB post
Kristal Jones
I Am Not Your Punchline
It started with me writing the words "Not Funny." On a rape joke posted to his Facebook Page. It has now become a lot bigger than me and my opinion of what is funny. Yes, I was raped. No, I do not enjoy rape jokes. Yes, I find them offensive. No, I do not wish to cencor anyone. Yes, I agree comedy is safe space for taboo and often inappropriate humour. No, I do not find anything humourus about rape. Yes, this started with a rape joke. No, that is not why i am so angry.
I started performing stand up this summer. I opened for Kirk Scott twice. We also hung out as friends on several social occasions. When he posted the initial rape joke I felt the need, as a survivor and as a human to express my distaste for it. Afterall, he was promoting me as a comedien and i wanted it to be clear that I didnt support that particular brand of shock humour. The words "Not Funny" quickly spiraled into what I thought was playful banter untill I was told to "eat a dick". As this banter was on a public feed I decided to message Kirk privately. I explained what I just did now, that I am a survivor of rape and I dont appreciate that type of humour but i wasnt trying to be rude. This was met with zero empathy and comments like " so what you were raped, I got bad head once but I still had hope for you. Dont take it out on me. Grow up." I was called weak. I was told that I wasnt going to be anymore of his shows and that I should go rot.
Not long after I recieved messages from Kirk accusing me of reporting his photo of the rape joke. I didnt, but that shouldnt matter. Immediately after he accused me of that he made a public post to his Fb page stating that he had a dream about "raping the shit out of the peson who reported his picture." Shortly after that he dressed as a rapist character Captin Spaulding and took selfies at a local radio station with the host in the booth infront of the mic and poseted them. He also began to message me things like; " you are my new project. This is my favorite thing to do. Buckle up."
For days he posted to Facebook Publicly videos of dogs being raped, pictures of food with the word rape in the spelling, photos of tools used for rape , music videos mocking me for being a survivor and many other disturbing things where either tagged me in the post itself or referred to me in the comments. He also continued to write me strange an disturbing messages.
When that radio host he posted pictures with ( and also lived with and performed with) said that he was mannings Kirk account for the day made a post via Kirks fb that he would be manning Kirks fb for the day I encouraged him to remove the posts, read the messages and reconsider who he is publicalt, personaly and professionaly envolved with. This was met with private messages calling me sad pathetic and stupid for sharing screen grabs of what Kirk was doing to me. This host repeatedly asked not to be envolved and said he didnt agree with Kirk but then berated me with a series of rape jokes he did find funny. I explained this wasnt about rape jokes. It was about a personal attack on me.
That is what people seem to be confusing here. This began with a rape joke and turned into a mallicious attack on me for being a rape survivor who spoke out. I wont let the story end that way. You see, after feeling upset and frightened I contacted the police. It took 48 hours ( that is an entirely too long time and a matter that I hope is addressed down the road) for an officer to be available to take my report. No charges were laid at that time but a warning was given. I thought that would be the end of it.
Fastforward to a month later. Kirk is seen in a segment on Chex promoting his comedy show for a childrens toy drive on CHEX daily. He mentions that radio host and The Wolf. He escorted on stage by an actual uniformed officer. I feel the wind knocked out of me as he looks and the camera and says he sometimes jokes about bad things so he needs to do something good for kids. I go to the venue the event will be held at in person to warn them who they booked and I emplor them to cancel. I see in local papers the event is listed as a Wolf event.
The day of the show rolls around and Kirk uses a Rape joke in conjunction with the name of venue hosting the event in order to encourage people to come out. I am nausious. I begin to message Chex, the Wolf and the establishment holding the event. I send screen caps of the harassment. I explain that this person should not be allowed to headline a childrens fundraising event. I explain that it is socially irresponsible to give this person a platform publicly after what had done. I explained that this perpetuates rape culture.No one cares or responds for hours. The show goes on and Kirk goes on stage and tells a hanious joke comparing a womans vagina to an 8 year olds mouth. At an event to raise toys for disadvantaged kids.
The night of the event I recieve an apology from a person at Chex who asks to remain unnamed. In th days following public posts are made by the establishment and The Wolf claiming they had no prior knowledge of Kirks recent history. A simple google search likely would have revealed this. The Wolf and the establishment hosting the event taking turns blaming eachother for why the Wolfs name is envolved. No one explains why this was allowed to happen or what will be done to prevent it or even why it was so awful. Just basically a "Sorry some people were offended. Its not our fault."
Chex releases a vauge apology and my name is dragged though the mudd in the comments. I am accused of seaking attention, cying victim, being jealous of someone funnier than myself,stalking and harassing Kirk. That is the only Joke in any of this really- that I somehow wanted or exploited this situation for some sort of gain. I do not want to be poster child for rape. I do not enjoy that my deepest shame and fear is now public knowledge. I do not like that I have typed the word 100s of times in the last week. Infact I hate it all. I hate that I have to. I know that if Kirks comments and attacks toward me happened 10 years ago, closer to my rape I would have harmed myself. I know that there a survivors still realing who, had they been Kirks target would have hurt themselves. That is why I have been so public. That is why this is important. I hate that I live in a world where I have to explain this.
I have had a tremendous amount of support since this started. My friends. Family, fellow comediens and strangers have rallied around me and I couldnt be more grateful. I am excited to move forward from this situation in a way that spins all this ugliness into some good, shiny, happy positive stuff. I am working with other comediens to organize a night of stand up in support of The White Ribbon and Draw the Line Campaigns. It is my hope that in bringing light to this situation and to these important campaigns that my community becomes a safer, kinder, more socially responsible one that takes steps away from the common embrace of rape culture and steps toward the alignment of survivors and everyone else.
Thanks for reading. Excuse the spelling. This is a lot to type with thumbs on a tiny screen and I cant bear to edit.
